{"id":2831,"date":"2026-08-18T06:49:37","date_gmt":"2026-08-18T13:49:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bloomministries.org\/faith\/?page_id=2224"},"modified":"2026-08-23T10:39:56","modified_gmt":"2026-08-23T17:39:56","slug":"grief","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bloomministries.org\/faith\/support\/grief\/","title":{"rendered":"Grief"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t<section class=\"section bf-threshold bf-img-1\" id=\"section_330285579\">\n\t\t<div class=\"section-bg fill\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n\n\t\t<div class=\"section-content relative\">\n\t\t\t\n<div class=\"row\"  id=\"row-1569083014\">\n\t<div id=\"col-1763846944\" class=\"col medium-12 large-12\"  >\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"col-inner text-center\"  >\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"text-3395179758\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n<!-- BLOOM_IMAGE_NEEDED: a single candle burned low on a bare table, dawn light, nothing else in frame -->\n<span class=\"bf-eyebrow\">GRIEF<\/span>\n<h1 class=\"bf-h1\">Every loss counts here.<span class=\"bf-turn\">Including the ones nobody sent flowers for.<\/span><\/h1>\n<div class=\"bf-rule\" style=\"margin-left:auto;margin-right:auto\"><\/div>\n<p class=\"bf-lede\">Deaths, including the estranged and complicated ones. And the grief no one else counts \u2014 the family that chose doctrine over you, the community amputated by coming out, the abilities illness is rewriting, the future a diagnosis or a legislature took. Bring any of it.<\/p>\n<div class=\"bf-actions\" style=\"margin-top:40px\">\n<a href=\"https:\/\/bloomministries.org\/faith\/support\/pastoral-care\/\" class=\"bf-btn bf-btn-primary\">Talk to a pastor <span class=\"bf-arrow\">\u2192<\/span><\/a>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/bloomministries.org\/faith\/sacraments\/funerals\/\" class=\"bf-btn bf-btn-ghost\">Funerals and burial<\/a>\n<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n<style>\n#section_330285579 {\n  padding-top: 90px;\n  padding-bottom: 90px;\n}\n@media (min-width:550px) {\n  #section_330285579 {\n    padding-top: 150px;\n    padding-bottom: 150px;\n  }\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/section>\n\t\n\n\n\t<section class=\"section bf-crisissec\" id=\"section_929783298\">\n\t\t<div class=\"section-bg fill\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n\n\t\t<div class=\"section-content relative\">\n\t\t\t\n<div class=\"row\"  id=\"row-110464385\">\n\t<div id=\"col-1335654485\" class=\"col medium-12 large-12\"  >\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"col-inner\"  >\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"text-987007484\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n<div class=\"bf-crisis\"><p class=\"bf-crisis-lead\">If you are in danger tonight, these answer faster than we can, at any hour. Nothing on this page is more important than the four numbers below.<\/p><ul class=\"bf-crisis-list\"><li><a class=\"bf-crisis-name\" href=\"tel:988\">988 Suicide &amp; Crisis Lifeline<\/a><span class=\"bf-crisis-how\">Call or text 988<\/span><span class=\"bf-crisis-note\">Free and open every hour of every day, across the United States.<\/span><\/li><li><a class=\"bf-crisis-name\" href=\"tel:18775658860\">Trans Lifeline<\/a><span class=\"bf-crisis-how\">Call 877-565-8860<\/span><span class=\"bf-crisis-note\">Peer support, staffed by trans people. Does not call police or emergency services without your consent.<\/span><\/li><li><a class=\"bf-crisis-name\" href=\"tel:18664887386\">The Trevor Project<\/a><span class=\"bf-crisis-how\">Call 1-866-488-7386, or text START to 678-678<\/span><span class=\"bf-crisis-note\">For LGBTQ people under 25. Chat, text, and phone.<\/span><\/li><li><a class=\"bf-crisis-name\" href=\"tel:18555037233\">Oregon Child Abuse Hotline<\/a><span class=\"bf-crisis-how\">Call 855-503-SAFE (855-503-7233)<\/span><span class=\"bf-crisis-note\">If a child is being harmed. The clergy of this church are mandatory reporters under ORS 419B.010, and that duty is not dispensable by anyone here, including the Ordinary.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n<style>\n#section_929783298 {\n  padding-top: 70px;\n  padding-bottom: 70px;\n}\n@media (min-width:550px) {\n  #section_929783298 {\n    padding-top: 110px;\n    padding-bottom: 110px;\n  }\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/section>\n\t\n\n\n\t<section class=\"section bf-splitsec bf-light\" id=\"section_666273750\">\n\t\t<div class=\"section-bg fill\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n\n\t\t<div class=\"section-content relative\">\n\t\t\t\n<div class=\"row\"  id=\"row-303565473\">\n\t<div id=\"col-293762514\" class=\"col medium-12 large-12\"  >\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"col-inner\"  >\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"text-2716965541\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n<div class=\"bf-split bf-split-wide\">\n<div class=\"bf-split-media bf-img-2\"><span class=\"bf-ph\">An empty chair<br>at a set table,<br>one place cleared<\/span><\/div>\n<div><span class=\"bf-eyebrow bf-eyebrow-left\">DISENFRANCHISED GRIEF<\/span>\n<h2 class=\"bf-h2\">There is a name for the grief <em>you are not allowed to have.<\/em><\/h2><div class=\"bf-rule\"><\/div>\n<p class=\"bf-p\">Grief counsellors call it disenfranchised grief: a real loss that the people around you do not recognise as a loss, so no ritual arrives, no casserole, no leave from work. The mourning happens anyway. It just happens without any of the equipment.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bf-p\">Parents still alive who will not use your name. A church that raised you and then put you out. A body that used to do things it cannot do now. A future you had planned around a legislature that has since changed the law. These are bereavements with no funerals, and the grief no one else counts is still grief.<\/p>\n<p class=\"bf-p\">Here, it gets the equipment. A conversation, a rite if you want one, and someone who will not tell you that at least the person is still alive.<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n<style>\n#section_666273750 {\n  padding-top: 80px;\n  padding-bottom: 80px;\n}\n@media (min-width:550px) {\n  #section_666273750 {\n    padding-top: 130px;\n    padding-bottom: 130px;\n  }\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/section>\n\t\n\n\n\t<section class=\"section bf-declsec\" id=\"section_1698793307\">\n\t\t<div class=\"section-bg fill\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n\n\t\t<div class=\"section-content relative\">\n\t\t\t\n<div class=\"row\"  id=\"row-724722875\">\n\t<div id=\"col-271323031\" class=\"col medium-12 large-12\"  >\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"col-inner\"  >\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"text-3639436342\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n<span class=\"bf-eyebrow bf-eyebrow-left\">HOW GRIEF IS TREATED HERE<\/span>\n<h2 class=\"bf-h2\">Three things this church <em>will not do to you.<\/em><\/h2><div class=\"bf-rule\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"bf-decl\"><p class=\"bf-decl-art\">Grief is never ranked<\/p>\n<p class=\"bf-decl-t\">Nobody here weighs your loss against a worse one and finds it light. <em>A dead grandmother, a father who chose doctrine, and a diagnosis are all admitted at the same door.<\/em><\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"bf-decl\"><p class=\"bf-decl-art\">Grief is never scheduled<\/p>\n<p class=\"bf-decl-t\">There are no stages you are behind on, and no correct sequence you have failed to follow. <em>Grief that arrives twenty years late is on time.<\/em><\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"bf-decl\"><p class=\"bf-decl-art\">Grief is never handed a deadline<\/p>\n<p class=\"bf-decl-t\">You will not be asked when you expect to be over it, or told that a year is long enough. <em>Some losses are carried, not resolved, and carrying is not a symptom.<\/em><\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"bf-decl\"><p class=\"bf-decl-art\">On complicated deaths<\/p>\n<p class=\"bf-decl-t\">People who hurt you also die, and what follows is rarely clean sorrow. <em>Relief, rage, and grief in the same week is a normal report, not a scandal.<\/em><\/p><\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n<style>\n#section_1698793307 {\n  padding-top: 80px;\n  padding-bottom: 80px;\n}\n@media (min-width:550px) {\n  #section_1698793307 {\n    padding-top: 130px;\n    padding-bottom: 130px;\n  }\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/section>\n\t\n\n\n\t<section class=\"section bf-quote bf-light\" id=\"section_1209270108\">\n\t\t<div class=\"section-bg fill\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n\n\t\t<div class=\"section-content relative\">\n\t\t\t\n<div class=\"row\"  id=\"row-15196440\">\n\t<div id=\"col-309481416\" class=\"col medium-12 large-12\"  >\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"col-inner text-center\"  >\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"text-990489961\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n<p class=\"bf-quote-t\">&#8220;Mourning is not a problem to be solved. It is love with nowhere left to put itself.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p class=\"bf-quote-c\">Pastora Tori Matthews, Ordinary and Chief Pastor<\/p>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n<style>\n#section_1209270108 {\n  padding-top: 80px;\n  padding-bottom: 80px;\n}\n@media (min-width:550px) {\n  #section_1209270108 {\n    padding-top: 130px;\n    padding-bottom: 130px;\n  }\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/section>\n\t\n\n\n\t<section class=\"section bf-stepssec\" id=\"section_1898611324\">\n\t\t<div class=\"section-bg fill\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n\n\t\t<div class=\"section-content relative\">\n\t\t\t\n<div class=\"row\"  id=\"row-1169466564\">\n\t<div id=\"col-1017504959\" class=\"col medium-12 large-12\"  >\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"col-inner\"  >\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"text-3416289527\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n<span class=\"bf-eyebrow bf-eyebrow-left\">WHAT IS AVAILABLE<\/span>\n<h2 class=\"bf-h2\">Four things you can <em>actually ask for.<\/em><\/h2><div class=\"bf-rule\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"bf-steps\">\n<div class=\"bf-step\"><h3>A conversation<\/h3><p>By message or voice, at no cost. Say who or what died, or say only that something did. Both are enough to start.<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"bf-step\"><h3>A funeral, a memorial, or a burial<\/h3><p>Including for people whose families held a service that erased them, and for people who need a second one done truthfully. Deadnames are not used.<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"bf-step\"><h3>A rite for a loss with no funeral<\/h3><p>A brief act of mourning for an estrangement, a lost community, or a capacity that is gone. Private, with one witness, unless you want otherwise.<\/p><\/div>\n<div class=\"bf-step\"><h3>A name in the Daily Offering<\/h3><p>The dead can be remembered by name, or anonymously, at your instruction. Nothing is published without your explicit consent.<\/p><span class=\"bf-step-gate\">Only with your consent<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n<style>\n#section_1898611324 {\n  padding-top: 80px;\n  padding-bottom: 80px;\n}\n@media (min-width:550px) {\n  #section_1898611324 {\n    padding-top: 130px;\n    padding-bottom: 130px;\n  }\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/section>\n\t\n\n\n\t<section class=\"section bf-faqsec\" id=\"section_1392806735\">\n\t\t<div class=\"section-bg fill\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n\n\t\t<div class=\"section-content relative\">\n\t\t\t\n<div class=\"row\"  id=\"row-29814833\">\n\t<div id=\"col-1592094867\" class=\"col medium-12 large-12\"  >\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"col-inner\"  >\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"text-2027012246\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n<span class=\"bf-eyebrow bf-eyebrow-left\">PLAIN ANSWERS<\/span>\n<h2 class=\"bf-h2\">Questions grief <em>tends to ask.<\/em><\/h2><div class=\"bf-rule\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\n<div class=\"accordion bf-faq\">\n\t<div id=\"accordion-111764514\" class=\"accordion-item\">\n\t\t<a id=\"accordion-111764514-label\" class=\"accordion-title plain\" href=\"#accordion-item-does-it-count-if-nobody-died?\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"accordion-111764514-content\">\n\t\t\t<button class=\"toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle\"><i class=\"icon-angle-down\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i><\/button>\n\t\t\t<span>Does it count if nobody died?<\/span>\n\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t<div id=\"accordion-111764514-content\" class=\"accordion-inner\" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-111764514-label\">\n\t\t\tYes. Estrangement, illness, and lost community are bereavements without funerals, and they are received here as losses rather than as complaints.\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t<div id=\"accordion-3511039689\" class=\"accordion-item\">\n\t\t<a id=\"accordion-3511039689-label\" class=\"accordion-title plain\" href=\"#accordion-item-do-i-need-to-believe-in-god-for-this-to-matter?\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"accordion-3511039689-content\">\n\t\t\t<button class=\"toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle\"><i class=\"icon-angle-down\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i><\/button>\n\t\t\t<span>Do I need to believe in God for this to matter?<\/span>\n\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t<div id=\"accordion-3511039689-content\" class=\"accordion-inner\" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-3511039689-label\">\n\t\t\tNo. You can grieve here as an atheist and be met with a person rather than an argument. Nothing is said over your loss that you did not ask for.\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t<div id=\"accordion-2610845160\" class=\"accordion-item\">\n\t\t<a id=\"accordion-2610845160-label\" class=\"accordion-title plain\" href=\"#accordion-item-what-if-i-am-relieved-that-they-died?\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"accordion-2610845160-content\">\n\t\t\t<button class=\"toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle\"><i class=\"icon-angle-down\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i><\/button>\n\t\t\t<span>What if I am relieved that they died?<\/span>\n\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t<div id=\"accordion-2610845160-content\" class=\"accordion-inner\" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-2610845160-label\">\n\t\t\tThen say that. Relief is common where the dead were harmful, and it is not treated here as a failure of love or of faith.\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t<div id=\"accordion-2392651011\" class=\"accordion-item\">\n\t\t<a id=\"accordion-2392651011-label\" class=\"accordion-title plain\" href=\"#accordion-item-my-family-held-a-funeral-that-erased-who-they-were.-can-something-else-be-done?\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"accordion-2392651011-content\">\n\t\t\t<button class=\"toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle\"><i class=\"icon-angle-down\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i><\/button>\n\t\t\t<span>My family held a funeral that erased who they were. Can something else be done?<\/span>\n\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t<div id=\"accordion-2392651011-content\" class=\"accordion-inner\" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-2392651011-label\">\n\t\t\tYes. A memorial can be offered that uses their true name and tells the truth about their life, whatever was said at the first service.\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t<div id=\"accordion-3777610677\" class=\"accordion-item\">\n\t\t<a id=\"accordion-3777610677-label\" class=\"accordion-title plain\" href=\"#accordion-item-is-there-a-cost?\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"accordion-3777610677-content\">\n\t\t\t<button class=\"toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle\"><i class=\"icon-angle-down\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i><\/button>\n\t\t\t<span>Is there a cost?<\/span>\n\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t<div id=\"accordion-3777610677-content\" class=\"accordion-inner\" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-3777610677-label\">\n\t\t\tNo. Nothing here has a fee, funerals included.\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t<div id=\"accordion-1715755582\" class=\"accordion-item\">\n\t\t<a id=\"accordion-1715755582-label\" class=\"accordion-title plain\" href=\"#accordion-item-can-i-ask-for-this-months-or-years-after-the-loss?\" aria-expanded=\"false\" aria-controls=\"accordion-1715755582-content\">\n\t\t\t<button class=\"toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle\"><i class=\"icon-angle-down\" aria-hidden=\"true\"><\/i><\/button>\n\t\t\t<span>Can I ask for this months or years after the loss?<\/span>\n\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t<div id=\"accordion-1715755582-content\" class=\"accordion-inner\" aria-labelledby=\"accordion-1715755582-label\">\n\t\t\tYes. Grief is never handed a deadline here, and a request that arrives late arrives on time.\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n<style>\n#section_1392806735 {\n  padding-top: 80px;\n  padding-bottom: 80px;\n}\n@media (min-width:550px) {\n  #section_1392806735 {\n    padding-top: 130px;\n    padding-bottom: 130px;\n  }\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/section>\n\t\n\n\n\t<section class=\"section bf-formsec bf-light\" id=\"section_1641933052\">\n\t\t<div class=\"section-bg fill\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n\n\t\t<div class=\"section-content relative\">\n\t\t\t\n<div class=\"row\"  id=\"row-389958229\">\n\t<div id=\"col-1737607057\" class=\"col medium-12 large-12\"  >\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"col-inner\"  >\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"text-2113136082\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n<div class=\"bf-form\"><h3>Write about the loss<\/h3>\n<p>A name, or no name. What you want, or the fact that you do not know yet. 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No name reaches a prayer list or the Daily Offering unless you ask for that specifically, and nothing is shared with any other Bloom program without your explicit consent.<\/div><\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n<style>\n#section_1641933052 {\n  padding-top: 80px;\n  padding-bottom: 80px;\n}\n@media (min-width:550px) {\n  #section_1641933052 {\n    padding-top: 130px;\n    padding-bottom: 130px;\n  }\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/section>\n\t\n\n\n\t<section class=\"section bf-ctasec\" id=\"section_827239947\">\n\t\t<div class=\"section-bg fill\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n\n\t\t<div class=\"section-content relative\">\n\t\t\t\n<div class=\"row\"  id=\"row-1208892777\">\n\t<div id=\"col-1491367866\" class=\"col medium-12 large-12\"  >\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"col-inner text-center\"  >\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"text-318742630\" class=\"text\">\n\t\t\n<span class=\"bf-eyebrow\">BRING IT<\/span>\n<h2 class=\"bf-h2\">You do not have to prove<br><em>the loss was big enough.<\/em><\/h2>\n<p class=\"bf-lede\" style=\"margin:0 auto 36px\">There is no threshold to clear and no one comparing your grief with somebody else&#8217;s. 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